Grieving the demise of your marriage: When is it time to move on?
Letting go is extremely difficult. We have clients who have been called out by others for grieving their break up, separation, or divorce. Sometimes people who leave relationships are incorrectly labeled as quitters, because society tells us how easy it is to give up on something or someone, and how hard it is to stay. On the other hand, sometimes others judge you for staying in a bad situation far too long. No one but you can know when it’s truly time to move on: this is your family and your life. It’s you, not them, who must deal with the pain and deal with the big changes ahead. You need expert counsel who will listen and help – not judge.
The Divorce attorneys at Mulinazzi Law Office know that more often than not making the decision to leave is the hardest part. Our minds and bodies are hard wired to avoid pain at any cost which means we can find ourselves is situations we shouldn’t be in just to avoid the pain of walking away. You can get used to almost anything and you may wonder if you deserve anything more – if you deserve happiness. Releasing someone you love, realizing that you have both changed or maybe that you were never compatible from the start, and facing reality is grueling and exhausting on top of the other responsibilities and stresses that life throws at us. You are allowed to be sad. You are allowed to grieve. Give yourself time. Our divorce attorneys never pressure our clients to leave or get divorce. In fact, we support our clients when they consider the marriage “one more chance.”
If you are thinking about divorce or separation, especially if children are involved, make sure you consult with an experienced and reasonable divorce attorney before making any serious decisions. No one regrets having too much information to make an informed decision about leaving and protecting yourself and your children in the process. Likewise, we tell our clients that they will regret NOT trying one more time more than they will beat themselves up for not trying hard enough. The divorce attorneys at Mulinazzi Law Office can give you information about your rights and what you can expect from the legal system through an initial consultation. There is no commitment to hire our firm after the initial consultation – we just want to make sure you get the right information to ease the stress for you at this transitional time. If you and your partner are on the same page, we can also assist you with preparing a Parenting Plan, a Post-Nuptial Agreement, or a Marital Settlement Agreement. A Marital Settlement Agreement is also sometimes called a Marital Separation Agreement or a Voluntary Separation and Property Settlement Agreement.